Dear Diary: Keep OutPosted: March 14, 2012
It didn’t surprise me when my 8-year-old daughter asked for a spiral notebook.
“I want to write stuff down,” she said matter-of-factly.
“What stuff?” I asked.
She just looked at me. And then gestured wildly, “Just STUFF.”
Sigh. So on the next Target run I brought home a notebook. Which she promptly turned into:
Suddenly I felt like I had been sucked back in time and was living in a Judy Blume novel. Only now I was the mom in the book.
I had a diary in third grade. It was a hardbound tiny book with Hello Kitty on the front. I took a label maker and punched a “Keep Out” sticker that I pasted on the cover. I wrote about all sorts of things like soccer practice, Valentine’s day, my dream crush on Rick Springfield (I sent him my school picture after getting his address from Dynamite Magazine) and my real crush on a boy in my class named S********. (You think I’m actually going to reveal his name? Please, people. I still live in the town I grew up in.) I kept my diary under my bed. A very safe hiding place, right? All secrets would be secure. No one would ever find it there.
Until my older sister did. The “Keep Out” sticker was apparently not powerful enough. She read it and then told S****** that I liked him.
How could my sister do that?! She taunted me for weeks with diary details. It was excruciating. To this day, all of my sisters make fun of my inventive spelling in the diary. Like when I spelled “Barbie Clothes” “Baribie Clotneths”. Ha ha. Hilarious. Not upsetting for a child at all.
I now look at my daughter’s pink polka-dotted notebook she drags around the house. She writes in the family room. In the basement. Her bedroom. I innocently ask what she’s writing and she just smiles. I get that most girls have a diary. That’s not the problem.
The problem is, I want to read it. Badly. Yes, she needs privacy, blah blah blah. But I want to read it RIGHTNOW. I want to get into my daughter’s budding mind. Her secret thoughts. I’ve known everything about her since she was born, and all of a sudden a little polka-dotted notebook has trumped me. It knows the inside scoop.
And it enjoys taunting me. It sits on her bed, in its hot pink glory. Not even bothering to hide under the bed. I could flip open the cover. What if it dropped off the bed and happened to open up? What if I was putting it away on her book shelf and a large breeze suddenly blew the pages open?
I’m not sure what I’m hoping to find in that little journal. What if I didn’t approve of it? What if (gasp) she wrote about me? Would I say something? And admit that I violated diary privacy? Don’t they have an American Girl Doll book that addresses this??
I saw her writing in it tonight.
“So, what do you have in there?” I ask. Hoping she’ll share.
“Hmmm, some thoughts just for me,” she says.
I swear that darn polka-dotted book laughed at me.