Letting Go: Easy As Riding A Bike

“This BIKE!” my 7-year-old Caroline huffed.

Conquering the two-wheeler

She pushed a mop of red curls from her eyes.

“I’m never going to get it!” she yelled miserably.

Yep, I’ll have to admit it.  On this sunny, crisp spring afternoon, I wasn’t too hopeful that she was EVER going to ride a two-wheeler.  Caroline has struggled to ride a bike for a few months.  We took the training wheels off near the end of last summer, but it never clicked.  She can pedal a few feet, and then she swerves and stops.

Ever explain how to ride a bike?  Um, not easy.  “Just kind of sit down, but pedal and don’t tip over.”  That doesn’t quite cut it.

We tried low seats, we tried high seats.  We thought about taking the pedals off.  My husband, Jamie, nearly took a header on the pavement, running along side of her.  I spent one evening running (in my flip flops – which I don’t recommend) and hanging on to the back of the bike.  She’d make some progress, but then would get scared and not want to try it for a while.

And I realized we would always try to hang onto the bike, until we sensed that she could go. We weren’t letting go.  We were part of the problem.  Ugh, a therapist would have a field day with this.

So I looked at Caroline.  “What’s the worst that will happen?” I asked her.  Then I echoed the question to myself.

She squinted at me, “I’ll fall.”

She’ll fall, I said in my head.

“And then what?” I asked.

“I could get hurt,” she frowned.

Yep, she could get hurt I inwardly cringed.

“But then what?” I asked.

“You’ll take care of me,” she said simply.

Always, I thought.  But first I have to let you go.

“Yep, I will.  But first, you have to ride.”

She straddled the bike.  One foot on the pavement, the other propped on the highest pedal.

“Now pedal!” I yelled.

She wobbled, she weaved, she fought for control.  And it took everything in my being to stop myself from grabbing the bike and steadying her. But she started pedaling as fast as she could.  And she was gone, down the street.  Jamie sprinted along the grass, keeping a look out for cars.  Finally she put her brakes on, and flashed us the biggest smile in the world.

She did it! And for the moment, I was right there. Physically and mentally.  I wasn’t thinking about getting dinner started, returning emails, plotting potty training strategy or planning my next career move.  On that spring afternoon, I will remember her face, how the air smelled and a tremendous sense of accomplishment.  For her.  For me.  My eyes welled up.  Must have been those darn allergies.

“Wow!” yelled Josh.

“Caroline rided her bike!” clapped Kitty.

“It’s easy,” Caroline said as she breezed by.

Of all the moments in life – career accolades, a wedding, births, babies sleeping through the night (trust me, biggest milestone ever), first steps, Kindergarten – this, I will never forget.

I let go, watched her take off.  And I was right there to see it.

15 thoughts on “Letting Go: Easy As Riding A Bike

  1. Good one Christy. Brought back a lot of happy memories. Enjoy your kids each day as they grow up too dam fast and then they take off again – too soon.

  2. Letting go is the hardest thing in the world, and when you have sever???allergies it’s twice as hard, doggone allergies. I know how proud you must be, a milestone, one of many you will have with your wonderful family.

    Enjoy them all. Take it from a mom and proud grandma.

  3. Not sure anything compares to seeing the firstborn *finally* take off on the 2-wheeler. Take a deep breath, Mom…….you witnessed first hand a significant rite of passage. And hey, you didn’t have to hear about it while in the back of a newsvan. It’s the little things, little sister. Love you.

  4. Great story! When my 15-year-old was learning, I would grab her neck and she would yell, “You’re shoking me!” Choking with an sh beginning. Now she’s driving with a permit. It never ends. We are going to let them fall many times in their lives.

  5. A couple weekends ago, when it got in the 80s, my 7yo son finally gave it a shot. We had an old bike that was shorter so he could put his feet down, so I told him to just coast a bit and get used to balancing, which he did well. Then, we loaded him down with all kinds of elbow and knee pads and told him to pedal, and he did it, just like that. You’re right – it’s hard to explain how to do it. Pedal, lean, steer. I also told him he’s going to fall, and it’s going to hurt, but then he’s going to get back on. A week later he was pedaling away on his big bike and not stopping. Pretty awesome. Now to the 5-year-old.

  6. My son Joseph learned to ride his bike by gearing up in full ice hockey gear including a helmet (with a full cage), shoulder pads, elbow pads, shin pads, etc. This gave him the confidence he needed to ride and know that if he fell he would be protected.

  7. Great story, Christy! My eyes welled (you’re right about allergy season!) – and we don’t even have kids.
    Congrats to Caroline – just the beginning of the many accomplishments you will witness.
    I’ve always admired your’s and Jamie’s childrearing and family values!
    Enjoy the magic of Spring, Ann Calvert

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